Given that this post is slightly outrageous in length (like, it required three tumblr posts to post everything—part two is linked to at the end of this post and part three is linked at the end of part two), I’ve also cross-posted it to my LJ, so… if you’d rather read it all over there, you can do so.
Okay, so this is a post about Scott McCall and self-harm. It’s really not going to amount to much more than, “blurble blurble, I just have a lot of feelings about Scott and I’m trying to sort through them all right now” so… I probably wouldn’t expect a lot here. It’s also not really a meta so much as me trying to parse through things in the interests of writing a fic, but there are kind of some meta elements to it, I guess, since it’s grounded in character analysis-y type things, in its own way. but anyway… yeah. Scott McCall and self-harm. we’re gonna talk about that now. or, well, I’m going to talk about it now and I welcome discussion, if anyone’s particularly motivated to join in the conversation here.
trigger warning: discussion of depression, self-harm, suicide/suicidal ideation, abuse, and eating disorders all ensue below the read more.
|—||Rumi (via mirroir)|
So, i read this awful article using bathroom “scare tactics,” which was claiming that trans women are potential rapists. “Men” who dress as women to gain access to women only spaces and force them self on women. This really upset me and i had a bit of a Twitter rant. They were read by others and i was urged to post them in other media also, so i am posting them here. (Edited together in easy reading format from top to bottom.)
This is the link in the first tweet about how there are no cases of a trans woman attacking a cis woman in public restrooms: Link 1.
This is the link in the second tweet about the cases where trans people are assaulted in the bathroom by cis people: Link 2.
if you’re cis and you follow me i’m gonna need you to reblog this
don’t care if you’re cis or trans, this is important.
DON’T WORRY HUMAN
I WILL TUNNEL US TO SAFETY
when u tell ur friend a plot twist for ur story
Rape is the only crime on the books for which arguing that the temptation to commit it was too clear and obvious to resist is treated as a defence. For every other crime, we call that a confession.
I’ve gotten more angry asks about this post than I have actual reblogs.
|—||My uncle, upon learning about America’s “new Green Movement”. Obviously, he’s not impressed. (via eastafrodite)|
Taken from reddit but it can’t be stressed enough
I’ve seen this on my dash like 10 times now. It really bugged me for some reason. I couldn’t figure out why. Then it hit me.
This is Ruthie. Ruthie was born without all the functions of her liver, and she’s having a rough time. When she was a baby, a doctor took part of her small intestine and made a little patch up for the missing parts of her liver. But this is only temporary.
Ruthie needs an organ donor, and her operation will cost around $500,000 dollars. Her family can’t pull that money, so all they’re asking for is $40,000 dollars.
With your help, Ruthie can have her surgery. Without her surgery, her body will soon outgrow the patch she has in place.
If you want to donate to Ruthie’s surgery, click here.
If you want to send a check, click here.
If you want to donate and find companies willing to match your donation, click here.
Ruthie and her family need all the help they can get, Ruthie already has hospital bills piling up, as every time she has a fever, she has to go to the hospital and get her blood checked for bacteria, then stay there for a few days.
Ruthie deserves a life outside of the hospital, and even if you can’t make a donation, it’d help so much just to signal boost this and reblog it, only the pictures of her show up on your blog.
An asexual and pansexual become room-mates and have wacky adventures
The show is called ‘All or Nothing’
Plot twist: the asexual is really super outgoing and is a huge flirt while the pansexual is extremely socially awkward and has trouble ordering coffee let alone getting a date.
my hand slipped
I enjoyed the new Captain America movie quite a bit. But I knew its soundtrack was missing something.
LOL!OH MY GODtarteauxfraises
A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she wasn’t so sure she liked this, and at that moment the other little girl’s mom came up and got down on her little girl’s level to talk to her.
“Honey, can you listen to me for a moment? I’m glad you’ve found a new friend, but you need to make sure to look at her face to see if she likes it when you hug her. And if she doesn’t like it, you need to give her space. Okay?”
Two years old, and already her mother was teaching her about consent.
My daughter Sally likes to color on herself with markers. I tell her it’s her body, so it’s her choice. Sometimes she writes her name, sometimes she draws flowers or patterns. The other day I heard her talking to her brother, a marker in her hand.
“Bobby, do you mind if I color on your leg?”
Bobby smiled and moved himself closer to his sister. She began drawing a pattern on his leg with a marker while he watched, fascinated. Later, she began coloring on the sole of his foot. After each stoke, he pulled his foot back, laughing. I looked over to see what was causing the commotion, and Sally turned to me.
“He doesn’t mind if I do this,” she explained, “he is only moving his foot because it tickles. He thinks its funny.” And she was right. Already Bobby had extended his foot to her again, smiling as he did so.
What I find really fascinating about these two anecdotes is that they both deal with the consent of children not yet old enough to communicate verbally. In both stories, the older child must read the consent of the younger child through nonverbal cues. And even then, consent is not this ambiguous thing that is difficult to understand.
Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.
And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?